I want to share with you how Lilyfield helped me make the most important decision of my life.
When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I had been married for nearly four years, but the marriage was abusive. Even though my husband knew of my pregnancy, the abuse continued and my baby and I were continually put into dangerous situations. That was something I simply could not accept. With the help of a friend I moved from my hometown for the first time ever, and made my way to Oklahoma.
Although I was excited about the upcoming birth of my daughter, I knew that I was not in an ideal situation to parent, as I was still healing from my abusive marriage and had a long road ahead of me in rebuilding my life in Oklahoma. After weighing my options with a small support circle and some research on the Internet, I decided to contact local adoption agencies. I initially met with three different agencies, but Lilyfield seemed to have the widest array of information and helped me feel most at ease. My caseworker happily answered any questions I had about the process and met me at my home each week to discuss what I was feeling and what to expect.
Within the first two or three weeks of becoming a Lilyfield client, I started looking through portfolios of prospective adoptive parents. I had a great feeling about one particular couple, and I met with them the following week. After that meeting, I was more certain than ever that they were extremely deserving and loving parents for my daughter – it was a perfect match!
I stayed in close contact with the couple for the next few weeks leading up to the birth, and they became (and continue to be) another source of comfort and support for me. I gave birth to a healthy, beautiful and amazing baby girl, and they were at the hospital with me every step of the way. When I first saw my daughter, I immediately fell in love, and although the first few days were admittedly hard, I knew I had made the right decision. My Lilyfield caseworker visited me for a few weeks after and made herself available to talk and to answer any other questions I have.
My daughter's adoption is very open, and I keep in regular contact with her parents. They typically send pictures and updates weekly, and it is just as important to them for me to be in my daughter's life as it is to me. It is incredibly rewarding knowing that my daughter is happy and loved, with all the potential in the world.
I am so thankful that Lilyfield was there to help me when I was lost, and because of them, the outcome for myself, my little girl and her new family is overwhelmingly positive.