James & Samantha
There are a few thoughts we wanted to share before talking about ourselves. First, we recognize that you are faced with an incredibly difficult choice.
In our journey we have found that courage is not the absence of fear but rather the willingness to show up despite fear. We have come to understand
that we are more than our difficult situations in life; we are not defined by our struggles but rather our response to them. Therefore, simply by the
act of considering adoption you are showing up to life’s messiness and showing so much courage.
Second, you are more than a label to us, more than a birth mom. We see you as a person to be loved. We fully recognize we would not be able to have the
gift of family without you. We will tell you a little about ourselves in the hopes that you may find that we are the right fit for you and your child.
We are both transplants to Oklahoma; James is from Kansas and Samantha is from Michigan; work and college brought us to this state. We met in 2010 and
got married in 2012; we enjoy traveling together and spending time with our 2 dogs and cat. James is an Information Technology supervisor for a large
oil & gas company and Samantha is a Licensed Marital & Family Therapist. Samantha primarily works with kids and families right now but has
worked with all age ranges. Her favorite type of work is couples counseling and individual counseling with teenage girls. Samantha is able to work
part time or full time and our current plan is for her to work part time once we have a child.
James is a very stable, introverted, logical and laid back type of guy. Samantha is very emotionally expressive, more of an extrovert and enjoys making
plans. We have been told we complement each other well. James volunteers at a local domestic violence shelter by helping with all their computer needs
and he has coached a kids soccer team in the past; Samantha enjoys spending her free time doing yoga or horseback riding. We enjoy watching movies
or planning home improvement projects together.
Having an emotionally healthy marriage and family is very important to both of us. We are not afraid to do the work to have this happen, whether that means
going to counseling, reading books or seeking advice from mentors or friends. We have always known we wanted to adopt however a diagnosis of infertility
has changed the timing of when we thought we would adopt.
Our life together has not been without its struggles. For example, Samantha’s dad was diagnosed with cancer in 2013 and died in 2015; we also have been
through the pain of miscarriage and failed fertility treatments. We share this with you to reassure you of our determination and strength as a couple
and as future parents. Surviving these struggles has made us stronger than we could ever imagine and this is why we are confident that we can face
the unique challenges of adopting a child and giving them the loving, stable home that you desire for them.
Thank you for reading our letter. Our prayers are with you as you continue to navigate life’s challenges.
James & Samantha
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